Just another (topic of) conversation

A few days ago I went to the office with a friend, we talk about a lot of things but mostly about the job and then somehow we got into the adult topic. Well, the part of the discussion was mention about one of the worrying individual value such as the improving an intimate relationship which refers to a sexual relationship without a bond which against the east traditional culture value.

 

In my opinion, a decision for doing the free sexual relationship is a pure self-individual choice and must follow with some responsibility for any possible risk that could happen in the future. I guess that is the standard point of view that needed to be considering of whenever you make a decision. In other words, there is always a consequence as a result for your action. Then the next question will be, are you gonna be ready to received the consequence of your own (intimate) action? Ignoring what ever the reason behind the action wether it’s in the name of love or for money, it still has its own consequences.

 

As you can see out there and it can not be denied, there are a lot of complexity cases that caused by this unrespondsible sexual behavior with the lack of knowledge about the healthy sexual relationship. The spreading of AIDS along with other sexual diseases sometimes followed by babies’ birth with defect, untreatable and uncurable disease; a suicide nor murdering cases; the malpractice abortion which lead into a mortality are just some of the impact that we often heard out there through the media. What we were dealing now is the condition where people, in this case young people and teenagers doing the free sexual relationship without knowing the risk of it (remember the story of a junior high school student who sell her virginity just because she was temptated to have a lot of money, a cool cellphone and to be able to do a hair extension? **sigh** )  and the ironic part is that almost all the blame goes to the female.

 

Education played an important role to help to reduce the problem in the society. The information or education about this topic should be taught properly instead classified as a taboo to be avoided. A discussion with some expert would be giving some clearer image about the situation. During my senior at all girls high school in Yogyakarta, all the second grade students were brought to the PKBI - Pusat Keluarga Berencana Indonesia to discuss about the human reproduction topic. First, they were asking what we know, how far and from who we get the information, do we really understand the risk or what - then they give some clarification, of course with extra knowledge about the things that we didn’t know yet. 

 

On the other side, moral value and the aspect of conscientiousness and responsibility need to be nurture during the grow-up phase of a child. Parent took a very important role for this one because a family is a place where the children learn for the first time, then strengthen with the formal education in the school. The provisions of a condom vending machine should be seen positively as a part of a solution instead an enemy to a moral judgement by some people whose having different perception. The buying process is something that most people didn’t want to deal with because of their shyness though it sold on the counter in a public pharmacy stores. My mom was a midwife, a nurse with additional skill in reproduction knowledge so I kinda near enough with the information resources. I could understand better because I could talk and ask my mom about the reproduction topic and she would explain to fulfill my curiosity. Well, I’m considering I’m lucky enough to get those informations as much as I want.

 

A “Juno” movie review

Hey have you watch “Juno” recently? It’s a movie about a 16 years old young girl named Juno who got pregnant with her boyfriend. At first she was confused and discussed this with her friend who suggested her doing the abortion. She’s trying but she ended up running out from the abortion clinic, thanked by Suchi, her friend, an anti abortion demonstran infront of the clinic with the poster written: baby have toes!. Then she’s looking for an adoption parent for her unborn child as her solution before she told her parent about it. It’s because she realized she was not ready to become a parent at her age but she still wishing and hopping the best for the baby. The parents were described kinda surprised but somehow they keep support their daughter to get through the pregnancy.

 

The poster of Juno from Google

There was a part of the movie where Juno upset with her boyfriend in the school and snap him out mentioning that she was having the proof as their action under her sweater, while he’s not (see what I mean when I written that the blame goes to the woman?). You better watch it for yourself to get the better understanding about the movie by yourself okay?!.

 

Anyway it’s a nice movie with some hidden point, kinda funny and sound impossible. But eventhough Juno made mistakes she could go through it because she have her parent support, a nice friend who didnt leave her out, the school that didn’t expelled her and the boyfriend who still stay in the relationship.

 

Knowing that she’s having a chance to continue her life, I guess that’s what important and make her holding on.

 

People deserve to get a second chance to be a better person right?!